How to discuss custody arrangements with children

On Behalf of | Aug 21, 2020 | Child Custody |

As a Colorado parent, when your child tells you that they want to live with their other parent, it can be a jarring revelation. You need to remain calm and approach this conversation methodically with the child. At the very minimum, their voice needs to be heard.

Listening to your child is critical

One of the most important things that you can do for a child is to give them a voice. This means listening to them when they come to you with something important. Remaining calm is critical, especially when they tell you that they want to live with the other parent. You need to learn the reason behind their thinking and hear their concerns. In some cases, their mind is not made up and can still be changed.

Communicate openly with your child

One thing to never do is badmouth the other parent to the child. That will only inflame the situation and could get you in trouble in court. It is generally best to bring the other parent into the discussion since it is not good to leave them out of something major. By speaking to your child, you may get to a point where you do not take their decision personally. In any event, you should not rush to judgement because it could just be the beginning of the conversation. At a certain point, you can also share your point of view with your child after you have listened to them.

If you find yourself in this situation, there is a minefield to navigate as far as custody is concerned. You may not know how to deal with the situation on your own. A family law attorney may help you figure out how to proceed legally. It might mean that you will need to go back to court to change the custody agreement. You should to be careful to avoid giving the other parent any legal grounds to challenge you.